Valentine’s Day - Here it Comes!
My friend Ruby had some coping techniques for those without a significant other this Valentine’s Day. Here’s what she has to say:
First of all, Valentine’s Day is tough even if you do have a significant other. It can cause a lot of needless pressure. People feel the need to get it right.
Now, if you don’t have that special someone, there are ways to celebrate anyway - after all, it’s about love and love doesn’t just mean the romantic kind.
I like to celebrate the areas in which I do have love, whether it’s a friend or a family member, a pet…or even ways I’ve learned to love myself more over the years. Love is a blessing in its many forms and it deserves attention and celebration, too.
In the past, I’ve also used Valentine’s Day as a time to reflect on what I really want romantically, down to the smallest detail. I let my imagination run wild. Simply by dedicating some energy to what I’m looking for in a partner, I feel like I’m a step closer to that person already.
Listen - it’s easy to feel that Valentine’s Day is a drag when you don’t have that certain someone. It takes a little more effort to use it in a way that’s positive and productive.
I really like this website. excellent idea for only positive news. Here’s my reflection about what I want.
Dear Cosmos,
this is my ideal boy, thanks for sending him to me soon
I love…
A boy who’s taking initiative in our relationship
A boy that can make me laugh.
A boy that gives me spontaneous kisses and hugs.
A boy I feel protected by
A boy that brings out the best in me
A boy that truly listens.
A boy that’s free to be in relationship with me
A boy that’s willing to take me as I am.
A boy that I don’t want to change.
Physically?
In all seriousness, the very first thing is attraction.
Obviously I have to be attracted to my ideal boy.
I thought for a long time I had no specific type of boy I liked
But lately I have developed some weakness for
slim tall boys with brown hair
I prefer soft skin with few body hair
he is fit (in pretty good condition) and is in his twenties or thirties
Let’s say it is a 100% physical body match with a young healthy bloke
What? You want more details? hmmm…
It would be fun if he likes the same music.
It would be cool if he got along with my family.
It would be best if he wants to get to know my friends.
It would be great if he feels at home in my house and wants to come and live with me..
It would be fantastic if he cleans up his own mess
It would be nice if we could cocoon once a week and watch movies.
It would be superb if we could on the last minute decide to go away for a few days
It would be unbelievable if we could have dance floor connection.
Oh, you want me to go even more in depth?
My boy prefers strong girls over chique girls
My boy likes board games and sports
My boy is down to Earth, but wants to take a spiritual flight so now and then.
My boy wants to grow old with me.
My boy gives me butterflies in my stomach.
My boy can make me feel his loves for me.
My boy makes me believe heaven is a place on earth
Maybe I am picky, but I believe I know what works for me. Although I must say I like to be pleasantly surprised too.
thx 4 everything
Els