What is it about the small, annoying things in life that can really unearth our positivity? From the baby crying at your quiet, little restaurant to the easily-triggered car alarm on your neighbor’s vehicle to the bank teller’s bad attitude, these seemingly little things can really rock our world.

Here are 3 steps to help you not sweat the small stuff:

1. Breathe. Sure I’ve said it before. Countless times. But your body’s response to a stressful situation is to breathe rapidly and shallowly. By focusing on a few deep breaths as the man in front of you drives 20 mph in a 40 mph zone, you “trick” your body into a sense of relaxation.

2.POV Switch. Change your perspective. Remember the man driving 20 mph under the speed limit? Perhaps he’s older and had an accident recently that shook him up. Or maybe the child screaming is really venting the way you need to! It’s tough to do, but it stems from compassion - feeling or imagining what someone else is going through.

3. Cry. Ah, this is tough for many. But when you find yourself increasingly testy, it’s usually because you’re hurting inside. It’s not that extra long red light. It may be your ailing mother or the troubled relationship you find yourself in. Crying is a quick and easy way to dispel some of the deeper pain. You’ll notice that little stuff isn’t nearly as annoying. If you are an avid “non-cryer” then try journaling or talking to a friend.

Annoyed or Annoyer?