Diagnoses in hospitals can be wrong. Medical miracles do happen. And people, deep in a coma state, can awake to say, “Hi Mom.” This moving story reminds us that even in the grimmest of situations, there is hope:
A Bay Area man who was shot in the head last month at a Halloween party in San Francisco reportedly awoke from his coma, giving his family something to be thankful for over the holiday weekend.
A month ago, when 21-year-old Benjamin Pessah was rushed to the hospital, doctors said there was a 25 percent chance that he would survive the gunshot wound to his head; they weren’t’ optimistic at all. But that negative outlook took a sharp turn last week when Pessah woke up from a medically induced coma in his San Francisco hospital room and said “Hi, Mom.”
According to ABC News, Pessah continued to delight his family on Thanksgiving when he took his first steps. “I was speechless. I didn’t really know what to say, it was very unexpected,” said his older brother brother, Nick Pessah.
Benjamin Pessah doesn’t recall the shooting, but he does remember other important things in his life, including account passwords and his address, his family told ABC News.
Read more at SF Weekly.
So I’m sitting a bar playing Scrabble with my friend. She says the following:
“I’m going to get a massage tomorrow. Or Monday at the latest. I keep waiting to do things for myself, like there’s this perfect time in the future. But it’s now that I need the massage. I should get it now. Or damn soon.
“What if you can’t get an appointment?” I query.
“I’ll get a massage from someone. Even if its a 5-minute chair deal. The touch I need is now. I don’t have to wait for touch.”
Perhaps it was that second glass of cheap wine, but her point really struck home. Why delay? Why be in a constant state of wanting when you can dare to ask for something now? When it comes to touch, why can’t it be as much of a priority as paying a bill or going to the doctor?
Can you get a massage day? In some sort of way?
(And yes, self massage and a hot bath counts…but only if all other resources have been checked.)
It’s late at night. I can’t sleep so I turn on the old computer and search the Web for a positive story to share with our audience.
I find one about a cheeta cub who stumbles in the lives of a group of humans who take exemplary care of her. And while Sheeba (the cheetah’s name) is eventually released into the wild, I’m filled with a sense of peace and confidence in humankind. And will once again fall back asleep.
Once you begin this story, you will want to reach the rest about this precious little cub:
Every parent knows the bittersweet ache of watching their children grow and leave the nest, but what happens when your baby is not yet two years old and can already run as fast as a car?
No one knows exactly how a one-month-old cheetah cub made her way under the fence of the Ol Pejeta chimpanzee sanctuary in Kenya in October of 2010. It’s no small miracle that sanctuary workers spotted her before the apes could make a meal out of her, yet great concern set in after an extensive search turned up absolutely no trace of the cub’s natural mother. With nowhere else to turn, sanctuary staff loaded the little cheetah onto a jeep and they set off together on a journey into the world of mankind.
“We have added a new member to the family and we are trying to make friends,” explained Sue Roberts of the Sirikoi game lodge in the Lewa Wildlife Conservancy in her very first blog post about her latest wild orphan. As foster mom to all forms of wildlife including a baby giraffe and an infant porcupine, Sue was well prepared to be patient in bonding with the cub.
Read more about this amazing cub!
Along with the millions of people who were affected, thousands of pets were also touched by the ravishing effects of Hurricane Sandy. Many emergency shelters did not allow pets, forcing owners to leave their pets at homes that were in peril. Some simply lost their pets in all of the chaos and confusion.
Here’s a few inspiring shots of pets saved and back in the hands of their relieved owners. Click on to enlarge:
Here’s more at the Huffington Post.
Yesterday, I felt a bit badly. I had made plans with a group of friends and frankly, I just didn’t want to do it. Instead I wanted to go home, eat dinner and watch a movie, drinking in the quiet of an early Fall evening. Which is exactly what I did.
Sometimes retreating is just what one needs to do to feel centered and calm and ready to take on the world…tomorrow!
We are not retreating – we are advancing in another direction.
Every moment of one’s existence one is growing into more or retreating into less. One is always living a little more or dying a little bit.
Woman begins by resisting a man’s advances and ends by blocking his retreat. - Oscar Wilde
In politics… never retreat, never retract… never admit a mistake. - Napoleon Bonaparte
How does life become totally painful? By total retreat. Total noninspection becomes total pain. – L. Ron Hubbard
A good retreat is better than a bad stand.- Irish Saying
Nowhere can man find a quieter or more untroubled retreat than in his own soul. - Marcus Aurelius
I struggle with being calm. There. I said it. I try, I really do…but it always seems like a state of mind I plan on acquiring when I get home. My affliction is probably like many others who can’t always find that peace of mind. So here are a few quotes to lead us in the right direction:
A desire arises in the mind. It is satisfied immediately another comes. In the interval which separates two desires a perfect calm reigns in the mind. It is at this moment freed from all thought, love or hate. Complete peace equally reigns between two mental waves.
Affliction is the wholesome soil of virtue, where patience, honor, sweet humility, and calm fortitude, take root and strongly flourish.
Am I calm all the time? That is a question to ask my mother. I am very happy in my home. I have a good family, that gives me something extra.
Anyone can hold the helm when the sea is calm.
Be calm in arguing; for fierceness makes error a fault, and truth discourtesy.
Be like a duck. Calm on the surface, but always paddling like the dickens underneath.
Beautiful music is the art of the prophets that can calm the agitations of the soul; it is one of the most magnificent and delightful presents God has given us.
Before, I was so stupid. But, you know, when you have friends who died on the street, you say, okay, let’s calm down. It’s not the kind of energy I want to have in life. I want to go slower, and longer.
But when I lose my temper, I find it difficult to forgive myself. I feel I’ve failed. I can be calm in a crisis, in the face of death or things that hurt badly. I don’t get hysterical, which may be masochistic of me.
Calm self-confidence is as far from conceit as the desire to earn a decent living is remote from greed.
Stories like these always warm the heart. When people extend themselves for animals (which they should do, instinctively, I do pray), it reminds us that we’re all interconnected…and that deep down inside, we care.
MOUNT SINAI, N.Y. — Police on New York’s Long Island spent over four hours rescuing a baby deer that fell into a 20-foot-deep manhole.
The cute, speckled creature scampered into the woods after it was released Thursday by its beaming, burly rescuers.
Landscapers called Suffolk County police around 3:30 p.m. Thursday after they saw the deer fall into the hole near a vacant lot in Mount Sinai.
Four emergency service officers responded.
The officers said the deer looked scared and sounded like it was crying.
One officer descended while wearing a breathing apparatus and a harness.
He placed another harness on the deer. The team raised it to ground level around 8 p.m.
They proudly posed for pictures with the fawn before releasing it.
How one deals with anger is as individual as thumbprints; we all have our own techniques and even they change over time and per situation. I found this section of an article helpful, where Leadership Freak asked his Facebook friends how they deal with anger. Look at the wide array of responses!
Contributors on my Facebook page completed the sentence, “I deal with anger by ____:”
- Trying to find the funny or ironic in the middle.
- Getting it out and getting it over quick.
- Riding my bike.
- Thinking of solutions.
- Being sure my brain is thinking before my mouth is moving.
- By putting the energy into positive behavior.
- Walking away and taking time to evaluate.
- By reflecting on my part in the situation.
- Painting, writing about it.
- Seeking advice from a third party.
- Picturing what my grandfather’s reaction would be.
- Checking my ego.
- Too often saying things I regret. (I had to include that one)
- Accepting that I’m angry.
- Depending on the situation, letting it out on the person who screwed up.
Leadership Freak‘s technique?
“When I feel anger’s heat, I call a trusted friend and spew it over him. I tell him exactly what I think, unfiltered. He always does the same thing; he listens and slows me down. He saves me from a world of regret and enables me to identify constructive behaviors.”
Here in the US, it is the fourth of July. We celebrate our independence. Countries all over the world celebrate their independence as well. So today, let’s talk freedom:
“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”
- Gloria Steinem
“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”
- Coco Chanel
“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.”
- Mahatma Gandhi
“Lock up your libraries if you like, but there is no gate, no lock, no bolt that you can set upon the freedom of my mind.”
- Virginia Woolf, A Room Of One’s Own
“They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.”
- Benjamin Franklin, Memoirs of the life & writings of Benjamin Franklin
This post might come across as cliche. Nobody likes forced smiles. And nobody like forced positivity. But this morning, as I was walking to work, a woman smiled at me. I took a moment to note the changes I felt after she did it. Relaxed, more welcome in this world…like the world was a friendly place, not a dangerous one.
Fast forward to later that day and I decided to pass it on. I smiled at a grumpy co-worker who didn’t smile back (but it didn’t matter). I smiled to the cashier at the cafe who I could tell genuinely appreciated it.
So smile LIKE you mean it. That doesn’t mean you even have to 100%. Just come close. You’ll shift your world and theirs.