We’ve all felt them before. And they don’t feel too pleasant. Most people don’t want to hold a grudge; it seems to get a hold of them instead. And sometimes the grip is too tight and for too long.

Here are a few words of wisdom for the people out there storing up too much poison:

“Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity or registering wrongs.”
~ Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

“When you hold a grudge, you want someone else’s sorrow to reflect your level of hurt but the two rarely meet.”
~ Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“I was angry with my friend:
I told my wrath, my wrath did end.
I was angry with my foe:
I told it not, my wrath did grow.”
~ William Blake

Life is too short to hold a grudge, also too long.  ~Robert Brault

Get mad, then get over it.  ~Colin Powell

Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath.  ~Eckhart Tolle

Before you give someone a piece of your mind, make sure you can get by with what is left.  ~Author Unknown

Get angry, get furious but never crumble to resentment.  ~Dodinsky

To carry a grudge is like being stung to death by one bee.  ~William H. Walton

Even if you don’t sail, you probably understand the freedom and magic that comes with such an airy pursuit. Sail in your mind today, even if you’re stuck somewhere with nary a breeze!

If you live a life of make-believe, your life isn’t worth anything until you do something that does challenge your reality. And to me, sailing the open ocean is a real challenge, because it’s life or death. - Morgan Freeman

I keep sailing on in this middle passage. I am sailing into the wind and the dark. But I am doing my best to keep my boat steady and my sails full. - Arthur Ashe

I use filming as an excuse to take classes. I got my certification in sailing for ‘Wedding Crashers,’ and now I can handle a 26-foot boat. I played a seamstress once, so I took sewing classes. I love dipping into these other lives. - Rachel McAdams

I have no interest in sailing around the world. Not that there is any lack of requests for me to do so. - Edward Heath

What can we gain by sailing to the moon if we are not able to cross the abyss that separates us from ourselves? This is the most important of all voyages of discovery, and without it, all the rest are not only useless, but disastrous. -Thomas Merton

We have readers from all over the world but we’re guessing/hoping most of you have a good idea as to who Bugs Bunny is.

If not, he was a popular Warner Brothers cartoon character for decades, known for his sharp wit and cunning ways.

Let’s reflect upon this cartoon rabbit’s words of wisdom today, shall we?

Don’t take life too seriously. You’ll never get out alive. - Bugs Bunny

OOH! Look a four-legged airplane! - Bugs Bunny

Carrots are devine. You get a dozen for a dime, It’s maaaa-gic! - Bugs Bunny

Watch me paste that pathetic palooka with a powerful, pachydermous, percussion pitch. - Bugs Bunny

I knew I shoulda taken that left turn at Albuquerque! - Bugs Bunny

Don’t think it hasn’t been a little slice of heaven…’cause it hasn’t! - Bugs Bunny

Well, what did you expect in an opera? A happy ending? - Bugs Bunny

Oh, well, we almost had a romantic ending! - Bugs Bunny

My, I’ll bet you monsters lead such innnnteresting lives. - Bugs Bunny

Here I go with the timid little woodland creature bit again. It’s shameful, but…ehhh, it’s a living. - Bugs Bunny

I bet you say that to all the wabbits. - Bugs Bunny

I know this defies the law of gravity, but I never studied law! - Bugs Bunny

If it’s the Captain’s Mess, let him clean it up. - Bugs Bunny

Shhhhhhhh! I’m about to defy you. - Bugs Bunny

Making a movie is a bit like having a baby. It requires a tremendous amount of time, love and yes…lots of pushing and labor!

Indie filmmakers often drain their bank accounts, max out credit cards, borrow from loved ones and do whatever it takes to have their “baby” seen by more than family members. So when a few make it to the stage of the Oscars, let’s give props to their sheer determination and burning creative spirit.

What was the last independent movie you’ve seen?

Michelle Obama screens indie Oscar contender ‘Beasts of the Southern Wild’ at White House The low-budget picture is in the running for Best Picture and Best Director. One of its stars, actress Quvenzhané Wallis, 9, is the youngest-ever nominee for the Best Actress award.

We live in an “in your face” era, where extroverts tend to lead the pack. Or at least appear that way (because they’re the loudest, right?) But introverted types, the quiet types, make a difference in their own way. They don’t need to be “fixed” or improved upon; as a culture, we need to appreciate what they offer:

The most creative people in many fields are usually introverts. We should not stop collaborating, however we should be aware that solitude matters and for some people it’s the air that they breathe.

Susan Cain [author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking] refers to research by Adam Grant (Associate Professor at the Wharton School of Business at the University of Pennsylvania) which reveals that introverted leaders often deliver better results than extroverted leaders.

When they are managing proactive employees they are much more likely to let employees run with those ideas. Some extroverted leaders can unwittingly get so excited they put their own stamp on things and other people’s ideas might not as easily bubble up to the surface.

Takeaways:

• Be wary of listening mostly to the loudest voices.
• Listen to the listeners.
• Put people in the right environment to suit their temperament. Introverts thrive better in one set of circumstances, and extroverts thrive better in another.
• Feel proud and comfortable of your strengths if you are an introvert.
• Think about how workplaces can better support introverts.
• Value individuality.
• Find time for solitude, to unplug.

Source: Positive Psychology News Daily

Whether metaphorically or literally, singing is a beautiful way of expressing yourself. So let your heart sing out or sing your favorite song proudly. Let these quotes inspire you to sing today. Sing like you just don’t care.

My heart is like a singing bird.
Christina Rossetti

I spent many years laughing at Harry Secombe’s singing until somebody told me that it wasn’t a joke.
Spike Milligan

Gardens are not made by singing ‘Oh, how beautiful,’ and sitting in the shade.
Rudyard Kipling

Love, I find, is like singing. Everybody can do enough to satisfy themselves, though it may not impress the neighbors as being very much.
Zora Neale Hurston

My heart is singing for joy this morning! A miracle has happened! The light of understanding has shone upon my little pupil’s mind, and behold, all things are changed!
Anne Sullivan

No; we have been as usual asking the wrong question. It does not matter a hoot what the mockingbird on the chimney is singing. The real and proper question is: Why is it beautiful?
Bertrand Russell

Nothing I have done professionally will top the feeling I got when singing with John Farnham at the 2000 Olympic Games in Sydney.
Olivia Newton-John

Singing is the love of my life, but I was ready to give it all up because I couldn’t handle people talking about how fat I was.
Stevie Nicks

Stevie Nicks

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Whether you are for or against the Occupy Wall Street movement, one thing can be agreed on: people have the power to make change globally. If you believe in what these groups are doing around the world, help them in whatever way possible. Here are some suggestions.

We cannot go on expecting solutions to come from the political and economic elites who ride in limousines with security guards. They are not exposed to the impacts of their policies, so the feedback loop has been broken by the concentration of wealth and power in a few hands. This is why so many people are out in the streets demanding a transition from the dominant system (guns and money) to a new system that will give social justice and environmental restoration a higher priority than corporate profit-making.

By Kevin Danaher – Co-Founder,  Global Exchange

Let’s take a moment of thanks and appreciation for the Occupy Wall Street protesters. You don’t have to agree with them. But they are exercising their rights as US citizens and taking a stand and attempting to make a positive change.

What can you do today to take a stand, no matter how small? Make a difference in your own life first and the ripple effect will occur. How can you instill in others around you the importance of standing up for your rights?

This was a fascinating people on quiet people - not shy or introverted folk. Nope. We’re talking naturally quiet people who are very much involved with their life. What do we have to learn from them?

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Quiet People are different from loners or introverts or recluses.

And quietness is not the same as shyness. Those who are shy keep to themselves and shy away from others. Quiet People, however, find it easy to be around other people. They can be quite social and sociable. They go to parties. They can have lots of friends. They get elected president — Calvin Coolidge. They become a famous singer — Peggy Lee. They sit on the Supreme Court — Clarence Thomas. They just don’t talk much.

There are two kinds of Quiet People, says Nicholas Christenfield, a psychology professor at the University of California, San Diego. “There are people who wish to talk, but are too timid to do so” and there are those who “simply choose not to say much.”

Christenfield specializes in researching human communication. He is exploring the idea of “volubility,” the opposite of quietness. But in his studies, he has found two basic notions of why people remain quiet, “which my research has attempted to untangle,” he says. “One is that their minds are less fertile, and fewer expressible thoughts occur to them.”

The other idea, he says, “and the one most people intuitively embrace, is that their minds are at least as productive, but their threshold for saying things out loud is much higher. In this case, the average utterance of a Quiet Person should be of higher quality than that of a talkative one. They have had mediocre thoughts, but declined to share them.”

Read more at DailyGood.

Well, not that you need to know ways to foster trust, right?

According to the “experts”—sociologists, psychologists, economists, political scientists—trust is based on expectation. To the degree you believe you can expect a certain response from someone, you trust him. To the degree you believe he will reciprocate at some point in the future in some (often undefined) way, you trust him. Of course, past experience—with the person in question or with others—will affect that confidence, but in the here and now, certain behaviors and visual cues can also influence if and how much you trust someone:

1. Familiarity. The more contact you have with someone, the more information you collect about him or her. The more information you have, the more confident you can be in your expectations.

2. Resemblance. If someone looks, dresses, or acts like you, you’re more likely to believe his or her actions and reactions will be similar to your own. A 2002 study at a Canadian university showed that people are more likely to trust someone whose facial features resemble theirs.

3. Consistency. The more someone behaves with consistency, the better you’re able to establish patterns and form expectations.

4. Punctuality. If someone is regularly on time, it not only signals consistency, but also general conscientiousness toward other people.

5. Flexibility. Social-exchange theorists have found that people are more likely to trust someone who does not try to explicitly negotiate or force a binding agreement. (Think of the last car salesman you encountered.)

6. Discretion. The ability to keep a secret and exercise tact will always inspire trust.

7. Transparency. The flip side of discretion is transparency. We want someone to keep our secrets, but not her own. Self-disclosure builds trust.

8. Competence. In the workplace, nothing inspires trust more than getting the job done right.

9. Engagement. Trust is based on an understood reciprocity. If someone does not even appear to invest in you, he likely doesn’t have much to lose in betraying you.

10. Face Time. Part of engaging is an effort to make “face time.” A recent study showed that people in the workplace are more likely to trust team members with whom they interact in person more than those they work with via email or videoconference.

11. Facial hair. Another recent study in the Journal of Marketing Communications found that consumers trust pitchmen with beards more than those without. There are limits, however, to the beard-trustworthiness theory. Graphic designer Matt McInerney was only halfway kidding when he made a graphic spectrum of “The Trustworthiness of Beards.”

12. Eye contact (but not too much). This is perhaps the biggest behavioral indicator of trustworthiness. But the quality of the eye contact, observes psychologist Elaine Ducharme, also matters. Is it steely or warm? Too much eye contact can be unnerving.

13. Handshake (not too firm, not too soft). Any businessperson can tell you the importance of a firm handshake in building confidence. However, like eye contact, there is a middle ground. Too firm suggests aggression; too soft suggests passivity.

14. Posture. No one trusts a slouch. A straight back projects an image of strength and confidence.

Of course, while these behaviors and visual cues might inspire trust, they don’t guarantee trustworthiness. As Ducharme wryly reminds, many psychopaths maintain excellent eye contact.