February10
Some think of Valentine’s Day as just another Hallmark holiday, geared to make us feel the need to buy, buy, buy. Others are dreamily in love with that special someone and can’t wait to see what he or she has in store for the big day. And then there’s the last group: the ones who don’t know what the heck to do on this pressure-filled day!

Valentine’s Day actually has a rich history (that doesn’t involve Hallmark) that you can read about here. And while we’ve come a long way since the days of St. Valentine, we can still have mixed feelings about a day dedicated to L-O-V-E.
What if you don’t have a significant other? What if you’re in the process of a break-up or a divorce? What if you’re with someone but you haven’t been so happy as of late? All these what ifs can lead to a lot of confusion.
Perhaps many of our concerns are based on the fact that we just don’t feel complete without a romantic counterpart. We are so used to believing that we’re supposed to be connected with someone, that if we’re not, we feel like a failure…or just plain left out.

Sadly, its a myth that we are repeatedly taught. We ARE whole without another. Sure, we can feel lonely but we can feel love. And truthfully, take a good look around you: you do have love in your life, undoubtedly. If you don’t, or more likely feel like you don’t, then start with a healthy dose of self-love.
Self-love can seem like an illusive concept but it needn’t be. Just imagine this: if you had a special someone in your life, how would you like him or her to treat you? Try, just try, to treat yourself that way for the day. Believe it or not, it has a ripple effect. Love always, always, always starts with you. It’s not bestowed upon you, its within you. Every day of the year.
